There is no doubt that hope and dreams are an integral part of any relationship but the sad reality is that some relationships will simply not last. Sadly, some people have what we call the “JEKYLL & HYDE SYNDROME” where one or both partners become stuck in a pattern of constant self-destructive behavior. The good news is that if you or your partner shows these signs of having problems then you should stop hoping for a magical cure-all and start learning how to know when to give up hope in a relationship.
You either realize that your efforts at making the relationship work are not working or you don’t. In most cases, the former happens to most of us and the latter happens to only a very few of us. The sad truth is that most relationships never fulfill our hopes and dreams. The sadder fact is that most people just give up on their relationships before they even really get started. The most common mistake people make when trying to save a relationship is trying to diagnose the problem or trying to prescribe a “cure.” Unfortunately, it doesn’t matter how well you know someone or how good you are at detecting a problem – if you or your partner is doing the same things that keep you apart in the first place, you will continue to suffer.
If you have been seeing this type of pattern in your relationship, I am sure you have been asking yourself, “why does my relationship seem to be failing?” This is actually a great question and one that deserve answers. The real question to ask yourself is why do you continue to think that hope is going to bring you happiness even though you are being frustrated by your own negative wishful thinking? When you stop trying so hard to make things work and start looking at things objectively instead of your hopeful expectations being blown out of proportion, you are going to see that the answer is simpler than you might have originally thought.
The first thing you need to understand is that the way you react emotionally is what keeps you from changing your patterns and turning your relationship into a healthy hope and dream. Most people are not going to automatically stop hoping and believing that things will work out for them. The thing about hope and dreams are that they don’t happen, period! The more you cling to the idea of some magic formula that will bring everything into your life, the more convinced you are going to remain of that fantasy. You will find that if you continue to keep hope up even when things seem hopeless, the more depressed you will become and the less control you will have over your negative emotions.
If hope alone was all that you needed to create a healthy relationship, we would have a bunch of unhappy people in our society. Instead, what we need to be working to is change the way you react to those healthy hope efforts. By learning how to stop hoping and start believing that your relationship can work out, you will be able to become a much happier person in your interaction with others. Rather than seeing things as being bad or terrible, you will be able to take a look at it from an optimistic perspective instead and make productive connections with people you have no interest in.
When you are in a relationship and are consistently happy, this shows your partner how much you care and that they are worthwhile to you. When you don’t have a healthy hope and dream of your relationship working out, you will constantly be searching for reasons why things aren’t working out and will become depressed and self-critical in your interactions with your partner. It’s important to remember that even if things don’t work out as you would like, it doesn’t mean that the relationship is doomed. All you need to do is try harder and keep working towards your goals.
The best way to do this is to start taking the steps that need to be taken in order to repair the damage that has been done. This usually means that you will have to come to a place where you admit that things aren’t working out as well as you would like and that you need some outside help. There is nothing wrong with working with a professional if it is going to be a way for you to get everything together in a way that is going to make both of you happy. No matter what you do, however, never give up hope because there is still hope that things will work out in a positive way.
Now that you know the answer to the question, “How to Know When to Give Up Hope in a Relationship,” you are one step closer to actually finding out the answers. When you ask yourself these questions, you will be able to see the opportunities that lie ahead for you. Don’t underestimate yourself or the ability of your partner. It can be very difficult for one person to bring up issues that are causing arguments, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You deserve a better relationship than what you are currently experiencing, and this is the only way that you are going to get it.