The day has come when we are all going to be getting married, and I miss my husband very much. He is so beautiful, loving, funny, caring and the whole nine yards (not counting the tip! ). I want to marry him right now. I miss the intimacy that we have when we are dating, but what I really need is back to the closeness that I had when we first started dating.
He has let me know just how much he adores me, and it has made me incredibly happy. It has allowed me to be able to live a more normal life, without worrying about spending every day of my pregnancy in bed, or going through labor again. So, I am thinking of you, and I miss you terribly. Can’t you feel the love between us, can you feel me close to you?
I miss the sexual intimacy with him, which is one of the reasons I was considering divorce in the first place. I miss the sexual touch, the cuddling, the kissing and the gentle squeezing. We spent every day of our pregnancy together and I couldn’t imagine having another baby while being forced to go through this pain. I want to get easier on him, and I want to enjoy the time I do have with him each day.
He is still one of my best friends, and I miss spending quality time with him, whether he is in town or on the weekend. Sometimes I don’t feel like having sex with him, and it makes me feel like I am missing something. I miss his laugh, his jokes, his sense of humor, his sense of love. He makes me feel special and I love that about him.
You are not going to be able to pull him back from the deep blue sea if you want him to fall in love with another woman. He can’t understand why you are so upset because it just doesn’t make any sense to you. He can’t understand why you feel this way and he tries to help, but it seems like no matter what he does, your emotions are too strong for him to overcome. So, can you feel me just a little closer to you, for you to get easier on him?
When you miss your husband, you may start to think that it is all your fault and that it is time to move on. This is the wrong thing to do. You are still a wife and you are supposed to treat your husband as you would treat your other half. If you think that you can move on and that your problem is over, your marriage will only grow further apart and you will find yourself looking forward to your husband when he comes home for dinner instead of looking forward to spending time with him. This only fuels his desire to chase you and to have that affair again.
The best wishes that you can give to him at this time are the same things that you wish you could say to your other half when they fell out of love with you. You need to remind him that you are still his wife and that you love him just the way he is. He also needs to know that you intend to stick by your side through thick and thin. That is what is meant by best wishes and you can do it today if you really want to rebuild the special bond that was once there between the two of you.
Can you see how easy it would be for you to let go of the pain and the anger if you were able to accept the fact that he had a problem that needed to be fixed? It is not your fault that your husband cheated. You were simply the victim of his immaturity and carelessness. Take full responsibility for your part in that and use your best wishes to fix what ails your marriage now and for the future.