My Boyfriend’s Mother Ruining My Relationship
The boyfriend’s mother is a very common scenario. A boyfriend has a very close relationship with his mother. She acts like his little princess every day and spends most of her time with him. On the other hand, his father feels neglected. This can lead to arguments and resentment in the relationship.
One of the ways to solve this problem is to create some space between them. Of course, you shouldn’t tell your boyfriend’s mother that she’s “not important” or that she “doesn’t matter”. You should try to find other activities that interest him and her. You may find that all the problems in the relationship can be solved if you simply change your plans a little. In fact, it’s better if you don’t tell your boyfriend at all about the problems you’re having in the relationship. They probably won’t be happy about it either, but it won’t make things any worse than they already are.
The problem starts when your boyfriend’s mother insists on “vetting” the relationship. She feels very threatened by the idea of your boyfriend’s spending time with other women. It makes her very angry that you would even consider mixing personal relationships. Your boyfriend probably feel the same way about their mother. You need to show your boyfriend’s respect for your parents’ feelings and respect for their privacy.
Respect your boyfriends mothers feelings, but don’t make a big deal out of it. Just tell her that it’s a natural reaction and that you understand why she feels that way. If he is truly sorry for what he’s done and he wants to make things right between you and his family, he’ll respect your opinion. You don’t have to agree with his choice, but at least you two will be working together to fix the problem. Your boyfriend’s mother may actually appreciate the fact that you took the time to tell them the truth instead of just ignoring it.
Things go bad when you start criticizing your boyfriend’s mother. She may even become defensive and think that you don’t love them anymore. Don’t worry about this; it’s normal for people to be hurt when they have a falling out of a relationship. You need to be careful not to use your status as an excuse to attack your boyfriends. Just accept the fact that the relationship may be over and that it’s okay to grieve.
One thing that can help is to give your boyfriend’s more space. They need to know that you aren’t mad at them and that you haven’t forgotten all of the good times that you had spent together. Don’t nag at them and never call them, but just knowing that you’re not hounding them is going to make things easier on both you and your boyfriend’s mother. Explain that you’ve enjoyed doing things together when you were dating, but that things have changed and now it’s time for you two to part ways. This doesn’t mean that the relationship is officially over; it’s just saying that things are over between you and your boyfriends and you need to move on.
It’s very important for you to understand that you shouldn’t cry or ask for forgiveness. This could cause your boyfriend’s mother to become more involved with him emotionally and this can only make things worse. If you take the time to apologize and try to work things out, you will have a much better relationship with your boyfriend’s. If not, then you’re only hurting yourself and everyone around you. Be mature and deal with your issues face on and don’t let drama get in the way of things between you and your boyfriends.
Remember that if the relationship has fallen apart don’t wallow in self pity. You are still the beautiful, loving, person that he fell in love with. You don’t have to give up on the love that you have for him and live a single mother’s life. In order to save your relationship and make it last, you will have to work at it and never give up.