My Husband Is Not Physically Attracted To Me Anymore – How Can I Save My Relationship And Make Him Love Me Again?
My husband has said to me, “I’m not physically attracted to you.” That was a comment made to me by my husband three months ago. At the time I found it confusing because I really didn’t know what to make of it. I had no idea what physical attraction was and how could he say that to me?
We have been married many years and he is my soul mate. I just don’t understand why he says that to me. I’ve known him for so long and he’s always treated me with respect and loves me no matter what. I love my husband more than anything in the world but I’m not physically attracted to him. That’s a terrible twist of events that I will be dealing with for the rest of my life.
Women who are not attracted to their husband often wonder if the relationship will ever end up working or falling apart. Some women assume that once they become pregnant they’re stuck in the marriage till the baby dies or becomes a teenager. Sadly this often means that a woman loses interest in the relationship. It can then lead to a loss of self-confidence and self-esteem.
I don’t want this to happen to me or any woman I love. I really do love my husband and want the best for the both of us. I also realized that the reason I wasn’t attracted to my husband years ago was because of his looks. I felt that if I was attracted to him because of his appearance then perhaps that was slipping away from my radar.
Now, that I’m over my babies I have a new appreciation for men who are attractive. My first assumption was that he was genetically inferior since I was born with that look. Now that I realize he’s a good-looking man with a great sense of humor I realize he’s a keeper. So I started wondering how we could keep our love alive when he wasn’t attracted to me in the beginning.
I started realizing that I needed to spend more time with my husband. I mean, where does one start? I mean we’re married; should I spend more time with my other friends, go out more or simply spend more time with my husband?
Well, I started realizing that this was actually making the relationship a lot worse. I didn’t like the fact that I was spending more time with my friends and less time with my husband. I also realized that we had been doing this same thing for far too long. We’d gone through so much trauma in our relationship already that keeping the fire going was just putting more fuel onto the fire. That’s exactly what I hadn’t been doing; I hadn’t been trying to save the marriage and fix things.
I wanted to make things better in the marriage. So I decided that I needed to start saving myself time. I needed to start spending more time with my husband and less time with my friends. And guess what? Our love for each other just took off!
It’s been almost ten years now and my husband still loves me and wants to save the relationship. He’s not happy about the way I spend my time, the company I hang out with and the movies I watch. He also admits that he doesn’t feel as close to me as he did when we first met. I’m starting to wonder if he feels that way because I’m no longer the hot girlfriend he used to think I was.
So I decided that I needed to do something about this and make myself more valuable to my husband again. I needed to start feeling good about myself again so that my husband would value me and want to have more time with me. And since I wasn’t having any sex, the time I spent with my hubby was all I needed to start feeling better about myself again.
So, if you’re a “bad girl” who’s now having trouble with your husband and wondering if he’s still physically attracted towards you – then you need to give yourself a little boost and make yourself more valuable to your husband again. Start going out with some friends on a regular basis, start hanging out with your girlfriends more often and take up a new hobby. All of these things will help you feel better about yourself and that will mean your husband starts to think more highly of you again.