Is your marriage falling apart? If you or your partner has asked this question, then it’s time to take action to make sure your union doesn’t end in divorce. There are many reasons why marriages fail, from not enough sex to too much fighting. Here, you’ll learn the truth about how to tell if your marriage is over and what you can do to save it.
Are you feeling like you’ve lost control with your spouse? Did you start arguing more lately or have serious quarrels that have nothing to do with each other? If you’re like most of the people who feel like their marriage is falling apart, you probably were feeling some degree of contempt for your partner at some point. If this sounds like you, there are three important signs your marriage could be over.
First, did one of you fails to satisfy another part of your spouse’s needs? While love is supposed to be a connection between two people, there are many couples where one person feels disconnected from the other. He/she may not want to listen to him/her or he/she may not be paying attention to her. This can lead to arguments and a lack of intimacy in the relationship.
Second, did one of you make major mistakes which caused disharmony in the relationship? Some couples have trouble communicating, have major fights, or even used to be very civil with one another but now seem to be distant or rude to each other. These couples are most likely to see these signs of contempt as an early sign that the marriage is over because they were not able to correct any of these problems before they decided to go in for a divorce. However, if your spouse was able to correct the problems before you decided to get a divorce, then this can be a positive sign. If not, it’s a sign that the relationship may not be salvageable.
Another one of the signs your marriage is over is if it’s just one person who wants out of the marriage. It’s almost impossible to keep a marriage together if both parties are perfectly happy and fulfilled in their relationship. In fact, sometimes one spouse will be completely miserable in the marriage because the other one doesn’t pay attention to him/her. When this happens, the person who’s unhappy with the marriage may start complaining constantly to their spouse about everything. This is seen as a clear sign that the marriage is over because the other partner doesn’t care about his/her partner anymore.
If both spouses are no longer happy in the relationship, then couples tend to play the blame game. They will accuse each other of hurting the relationship and start criticizing one another. This doesn’t help either of the partners in their attempt to improve the relationship. Couples who are in a bad marriage often say things like “my spouse doesn’t show affection anymore”, “my partner is too involved with work all the time”, and “my partner is a control freak”.
One of the most common signs your marriage is over is when one partner begins to have extra-marital affairs. When this happens, it often changes the dynamic of the marriage. Even though they may feel that they love each other, cheating partners don’t really want to be in a long-term relationship with their spouse. They are looking for excitement, and different experiences. If you feel like your spouse doesn’t respect you anymore and has started acting strangely towards you or hasn’t confided in you, then chances are he/she has an extramarital affair.
Lastly, one of the signs your marriage is over when it becomes unbalanced is when one of the partners starts saying that they want a divorce and mentions some nasty things about the other. A healthy marriage needs to have good communication. A healthy marriage also needs to have some points of agreement from both partners. When one of them starts mentioning things behind your back (or even saying negative things to you), it’s time to get serious about saving the marriage. Here are 2 signs your marriage is over: when your spouse says they want a divorce and starts saying nasty things behind your back; and when they start having extra-marital affairs.